Elise Sutton: Female Domination #3

“A man could have a million dollars in his bank account, but if he did not know the Money was there, he would never spend it. He would live his life thinking he was poor when in fact he was rich the entire time. Then if one day out of the blue, someone contacted him and said, “Hey, you have a million dollars in your bank account”, a light would come on and he would get excited and he would go and use that money. Did that money come out of left field and invade his bank account? No, it was there all the time but he needed a revelation that it was there.

That is what happens concerning Female Domination. A man’s submissive nature is there all the time, birthed into him and cultivated by childhood and adolescent experiences but it is lying dormant. Then out of the blue, he comes across literature about Female Domination or a scene in a movie that portrays Female Domination, and that submissive nature comes alive. Now it will dominate his thought but not from without but from within. It is perfectly natural for a man to desire to submit to the female gender. Once he has that revelation, that revelation frees his submissive nature and brings it to the forefront of his thoughts and desires. It happens to men over and over again. Most of the time it happens when a male comes into puberty or is a teenager or when he becomes a young adult. But it also happens later in life in some males because they have not yet experienced that trigger until later in life.”

Apesar de gostar muito de cinema o meu “trigger” deu-se com Madonna e o videoclip “Express Yourself”. A postura dominante de Madonna nesse videoclip teve em mim o efeito de que a Elise Sutton refere. Eu não me cansava de ver aquele videoclip. Mas ao mesmo tempo que este imaginário me atraia, também me causava apreensão. Seria normal desejar uma mulher dominadora? Foram muitos anos dividido por dentro, pois assumir, para mim próprio, esta faceta não foi fácil. Mas a confissão a algumas pessoas muito próximas teve o efeito de uma libertação. Foi um detonador, ajudando-me a perceber que o meu caminho era mesmo por aí. Falta agora o próximo passo: a tal relação propriamente dita.

O videoclip foi realizado por David Fincher e o monóculo que Madonna tem é uma homenagem ao realizador Fritz Lang, conhecido por usá-lo. Aliás, o videoclip termina com a sentença final de Metropolis, o filme mais famoso desse realizador. Curiosamente Lang viria mais tarde a ser - e ainda é - o meu realizador preferido.

E no vosso caso, também algum filme/música/livro serviu de ignição?

Elise Sutton: Female Domination #2