Elise Sutton: Female Domination #3

“A man could have a million dollars in his bank account, but if he did not know the Money was there, he would never spend it. He would live his life thinking he was poor when in fact he was rich the entire time. Then if one day out of the blue, someone contacted him and said, “Hey, you have a million dollars in your bank account”, a light would come on and he would get excited and he would go and use that money. Did that money come out of left field and invade his bank account? No, it was there all the time but he needed a revelation that it was there.

That is what happens concerning Female Domination. A man’s submissive nature is there all the time, birthed into him and cultivated by childhood and adolescent experiences but it is lying dormant. Then out of the blue, he comes across literature about Female Domination or a scene in a movie that portrays Female Domination, and that submissive nature comes alive. Now it will dominate his thought but not from without but from within. It is perfectly natural for a man to desire to submit to the female gender. Once he has that revelation, that revelation frees his submissive nature and brings it to the forefront of his thoughts and desires. It happens to men over and over again. Most of the time it happens when a male comes into puberty or is a teenager or when he becomes a young adult. But it also happens later in life in some males because they have not yet experienced that trigger until later in life.”

Apesar de gostar muito de cinema o meu “trigger” deu-se com Madonna e o videoclip “Express Yourself”. A postura dominante de Madonna nesse videoclip teve em mim o efeito de que a Elise Sutton refere. Eu não me cansava de ver aquele videoclip. Mas ao mesmo tempo que este imaginário me atraia, também me causava apreensão. Seria normal desejar uma mulher dominadora? Foram muitos anos dividido por dentro, pois assumir, para mim próprio, esta faceta não foi fácil. Mas a confissão a algumas pessoas muito próximas teve o efeito de uma libertação. Foi um detonador, ajudando-me a perceber que o meu caminho era mesmo por aí. Falta agora o próximo passo: a tal relação propriamente dita.

O videoclip foi realizado por David Fincher e o monóculo que Madonna tem é uma homenagem ao realizador Fritz Lang, conhecido por usá-lo. Aliás, o videoclip termina com a sentença final de Metropolis, o filme mais famoso desse realizador. Curiosamente Lang viria mais tarde a ser - e ainda é - o meu realizador preferido.

E no vosso caso, também algum filme/música/livro serviu de ignição?

Elise Sutton: Female Domination #2

Please your Queen first,

then enjoy a good whipping.

On Top #1

Alem dos blogues portugueses, também leio alguns blogues internacionais dedicados ao BDSM. Um dos que mais aprecio é de uma autora canadiana que está escrever um livro sobre a evolução do BDSM: “Beauty in Darkness: the history of BDSM”.

O blogue serve como diário da sua pesquisa, acabando por nos permitir seguir as suas ideias. É interessante ver como, ao longo do blogue, ela constrói e abandona algumas ideias, de acordo com os dados que vai recolhendo. Um exemplo disso é a excelente entrada sobre a Villa of the Mysteries da famosa Pompeia.

Na última entrada o blogue brinda-nos com um pdf que vale a pena ler:

Sexuality and Civil Rights: Freedom from Government Reprisal

Cinema #2

Maîtresse (1975)

Cinema #1

Sondagem

Quando a Domme se prepara para dar as suas ordens ao submisso, este deve estar:

a) completamente depilado;

b) depilado apenas na região genital;

c) depilado no tronco e costas;

d) depilado apenas nas pernas;

e) sem depilação.

Digam de vossa justiça ;)

O prometido é devido...

...aqui está a outra perspectiva ;)

Elise Sutton: Female Domination #2

Elise Sutton é uma mulher de interrogações. E cada uma faz um homem sonhar…

The most important thing is that each couple must keep the lines of communication open, as honesty and openness are crucial in a female domination relationship. A woman needs to be open minded to explore new things as her submissive shares with her his deepest desires. It is all about negotiation and fulfilment. I ask women, what touches his submissive nature? Does he have a leather fetish? If so, then wear some leather. Does he have a foot or boot fetish? Does he crave whippings or spankings? Does he enjoy the helpless feeling of being in bondage? I tell women to find out what stirs her man’s submission and then do these things to him. A smart woman will take a man's submission and channel it into his service of her. A wise woman will use her dominance to draw out more of her man’s submission and then use that submission to get her needs met and fulfilled.

(pp. 26)

Most women would love to have a husband that loves, honors, worships, and obeys her. Young girls dream about a Prince who comes along and treats her like a Queen. What women wouldn’t want a man that would pamper her, give her foot and body massages, and who would get more pleasure out of pleasuring her than receiving pleasure himself. How about a man that would do whatever she told him to do, without arguing or complaining? A man that would not only do all of his chores like cutting the grass and washing the cars, but also do housework, the laundry, the grocery shopping, and even the cooking. How about a man that would wine and dine her and shower her with gifts? What woman would not want a man that would love her with all of his heart and would view her as his earthly Goddess? The dominant female lives this dream because she has learned how to motivate her man to serve her needs by meeting his need to be dominated. That is the beauty of the Female Domination lifestyle.

(pp. 27)

Elise Sutton: Female Domination #1